Why do men think they have the right to take all the decisions? No matter how much the world progresses they will always think they should rightfully have the last word.
They pretend to be broad minded and happy that women are doing well in their respective careers but they can never stomach the fact that some women have a mind of their own. Women can also take decisions, they also work, and they also feel tired. But for men they will remain the trophy wife who they can show off to family and friends.
You might think you are not chauvinistic, but you are so naturally, it's part of your make.
It is difficult for a girl to be dolled up all the time. But you expect that. If a girl wears specs she is a geek and too dorky for you eyes. But if a man is wearing specs it is a mark of intelligence. If a girl has put on a lot of make-up she is “loose” and “easy to get” and if she is dressed shabbily you will call her un-cool. Then again its fine for a guy to dress shabbily, that’s cool.
You think it is a woman’s right to pursue a career of her choice but when she does it you would like to give the approval. Why this patriarchal mentality? Isn’t this what independent minded intellectuals fought for?
If the child has to go for an excursion the school requires the father’s consent, why? Is the mother any lesser as a parent?
If this is how the world is to be, I guess the Elizabethan England was better. At least there women knew they were treated as lesser. But at least they made chivalrous men back then.
well written...but then isnt this something almost every women say..? are we doing anything about it..? Guess...we are too used to the facts or plain lazy..? But think about it...our ancestors [maybe present gen too] kept on scheming on how to control us..imagine the importance we hold in their minds [did anyone say inferiority complex?!]..!!!
ReplyDeleteThe world is still very unfair, but hopefully we're moving in the right direction. People are changing I think. I guess a lot of it is following tradition and culture, you have to be careful not to lose the good things as well as the bad though. Needing the father's consent must be an Indian thing, it's not like that here. But here it's very common for parents to be unmarried, and also very common for single mother parents, so the children have no male role models which leads to a vicious circle. So I think I'd prefer the Indian culture even though it's not perfect!
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@C.. Look no matter how much we talk about men having inferiority complex, we know that is not true. Apart from that, it is not as if attempts are not made. the Feminist movement is an example of a rebellious attempt to get women their rightful place. But look at them now, they are so pseudo they themselves are not respected let alone them earning womenfolk respect.
ReplyDelete@Dean..I am not very sure if i myself would be very comfortable in such situation, but then again , may be it has to do with theway we are brought up.
@K.. Funny.
Hmmmm I'm quite happy living in a Patriarchal society with Patrifocal views. I find it frustrating when women (who are so obviously superior to men) have to thrash about and demand equality. Why ask for equality when you very obviously have a superior status? I do. As for the male perspective - what do you expect? Men have limited imaginations, hence are limited in their views.
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ReplyDeleteLike Mr. Tulliver had said once, "An over-smart woman's no good, nor a long tailed sheep. It'll fetch none the better price for that."
-The Mill on the Floss :D
Moja korchhi. Raag korish na :P
oh god! someone please stop him from quoting from MOTF at the drop of every hat!
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